How to Improve the Quality of Your Sex Life

Many people have asked me, “I feel like I have low libido; I’ve never experienced passion. What exactly does that urge and desire feel like? Why are some people able to have such a diverse and exciting sex life?” They eventually sigh, “I really crave a complete release, a passionate and intense lovemaking experience.”

Sex is not just about releasing desire; it’s also a way to express emotions and even a channel for releasing stress in modern society.

I wonder how many people are still following the same old routine for sex: shower, undress, lie down, have sex, shower again, and finally go to sleep… The actions themselves may be monotonous, but the experience itself can be vibrant and exciting.

I’ve noticed a pattern: the more educated a man or woman is, the more they value the quality of their sex life. The more superficial a person is, the more they resist sex. In their eyes, sex is dirty and taboo.

Think back to your own sexual experiences. Was there ever a time that made your heart race, left you wanting more, and filled with passion? Was there an irresistible urge, a pounding heart, and extreme heat in your body? A person who has never tried it cannot truly understand sex. To have a wild experience, you can improve in several ways:

**Changing the Location**

Most couples make love in their bed at home. When you feel numb, try changing the location. The kitchen, the balcony at dusk, the park at night, the fields in the countryside, a busy parking lot… Compared to open spaces, confined spaces can be more arousing. No need for deliberate planning; just let the moment come naturally. Men should know how to protect women, and women should be more open; this will stimulate men’s senses and bring unexpected sensations to both partners.

**The Contrast Effect**

When two people have been together for a long time, sex loses its passion. This is because both partners know every step, every position, and even the duration of different positions.

Humans are creatures that crave novelty; only by creating novelty as much as possible can you maintain the passion in your sex life. Most men are lukewarm in bed when it comes to sex. Try being gentle with her, making her feel like a princess, cherished and loved, or be wildly rough, giving her a desire to be possessed, tamed, and drained.

Empty Yourself

Women often rely on men for orgasms, provided you can unleash their potential. Foreplay techniques aren’t just for men; women should also use verbal and physical teasing to complement him during foreplay. A man’s performance in bed largely depends on the woman; a sexy woman can ignite a man’s powerful aggression. Try wearing sexy lingerie, spraying his favorite perfume, and gazing seductively at him in bed. Use your sexy body to attract him, call out to him; use sweet words to “aphrodisiac” him, fully igniting his desire, controlling his body, surrounding him with fragrance, and enjoying a thoroughly exhilarating sexual experience. The more alluring a woman is, the more she knows how to “manipulate” a man. Find a man you reciprocate with, and use every trick in the book to stimulate him, making him moan, shout, and want more.

Creating a Sense of Strangeness

The saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is very true. A short separation can bring a sense of novelty and excitement to long-married couples. From a normal physiological perspective, a person’s libido cycle is about a week. If a couple doesn’t experience sexual arousal or thought within seven days, it indicates an unhealthy state. This could be due to stress from life and work, emotional discord, or disharmony in their sex life, all of which can dampen their interest in sex. In this situation, creating a sense of strangeness might loosen the tension in their relationship. After rational communication, try sleeping in separate beds and abstaining from any physical contact for a set period. During this time, both partners should maintain a romantic state. Undeniably, women are most beautiful and men are most handsome during courtship. A new outfit or hairstyle can create a refreshing feeling. When desire arises, it’s advisable to choose a relatively new and exciting location for intimacy. A long-lasting marriage requires some variety. Many people have sexual fantasies, and turning those fantasies into reality can be incredibly exciting. Most people’s sexual fantasies are passionate, with few taking a gentler approach.

A harmonious sex life is a crucial part of marriage and spousal relationships. Sex doesn’t require rationality; it needs creativity and energy.

Both partners should work together to create novelty, explore new positions, and jointly maintain their sex life.