Understanding sex will stabilize your marriage

Zhang Lei and Liu Li are a middle-aged couple approaching the age of knowing their destiny. As they grow older, Zhang Lei, who is in middle age, gradually feels that his sex life is not as good as when he was young, and the pleasure is not as strong as when he was young. Due to insufficient erection, it is always difficult to get into the state every time he has sex with his wife. Over time, his wife is very dissatisfied, and this has caused conflicts between the couple.

Regarding this situation, Zhang Lei consulted a doctor and took medicine, but the effect was not great, and his condition was still not very optimistic. Later, he told his distress to a good friend, who said disapprovingly: “Mr. Zhang, this is a natural phenomenon. If you can’t do it, it means that your sexual function has aged. You are almost fifty years old, and it is normal that you can’t do it. In the future, you should be more open-minded, let nature take its course, and just mess around with your wife.”

After listening to his friend’s words, Zhang Lei suddenly felt enlightened. Yes, I am already in my 50s, and I am different from young people. If I am not good at that, then so be it. Instead of forcing myself to cause trouble, I might as well let it go. With this idea in mind, when his wife, who had not had sex for a long time, couldn’t help but “send him a secret glance” to send him sexual signals, he either made excuses of physical discomfort or deliberately changed the subject and talked about something else. Over time, his avoidance of sex seriously hurt the relationship between the couple. Gradually, the two couples living under the same roof became like strangers, and there was no spiritual intersection between them. After a year of such life, his wife, who could not bear the loneliness in her heart, asked him for a divorce. At this point, Zhang Lei regretted it.

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Unlike Zhang Lei and Liu Li, who parted ways, Li Bing and Yi Jia, who are also middle-aged couples, have a strong relationship after middle age. Because of their harmonious and happy sex life, they have become more attractive in each other’s eyes. When they reached middle age, they also encountered the same problems that Zhang Lei and his wife encountered, but their solution was to pay attention to sexual health and take every sex seriously. In view of the slow heat of middle-aged sex, they paid great attention to tactile stimulation and increased the time of foreplay. While fully stimulating the sexual passion of both parties, they let each other enjoy sex and also let themselves get sexual pleasure. Sexual harmony greatly enhances the relationship between husband and wife. The old couple goes out together every day, and their good relationship is envied by young people.

Some sex experts have said that only by understanding sex can a marriage be stable. Compared with Zhang Lei and his wife, Li Bing and his wife are wise. The reason why their relationship will last for a long time in middle age is that they understand sex, and harmonious sex effectively promotes their relationship between husband and wife. The reason why Zhang Lei and his wife separated was that they misunderstood sex, which resulted in the lack of harmonious sex, the glue of the soul, and they gradually drifted apart. So how to explain these two completely different results? How should middle-aged couples grasp sex? Some experts point out that for middle-aged couples to have a stable marriage, sexual harmony is the most important thing. Don’t think that sex is a dispensable thing for middle-aged couples. Sex plays an important role in the stability of marriage. The key to sexual harmony is understanding and mutual understanding, because when people reach middle age, the body, lifestyle and sexual response of both men and women have changed. To adapt to this change, the sex life of middle-aged couples needs some adjustments.

When men are young, their passion is like fire. But when women are young, it is not easy to reach orgasm, and their sexual experience is at its best when they are close to middle age. As men enter middle age, physiological aging makes the sexual rhythm slow from fast to slow, and it takes more time to reach orgasm, and the intensity is not as good as before. But in this way, the husband’s slow heat happens to match the wife’s slow heat, and his sexual rhythm will be closer to that of his wife. For the wife, the husband’s sexual rhythm is synchronized with hers, and this kind of slow and slow sex makes her sexual experience reach the best state. In their 20s, most men will naturally “erect” when they see their wives taking off their clothes.

But after entering middle age, visual stimulation alone is not enough. They also need the kiss and tenderness of their wives to enter sexual excitement. If they shift their attention from “what they see” to “what they do” during the foreplay stage and give more preparations for sex, the chances of synchronized orgasms between couples will increase relatively much, and their sex life will be significantly improved.

A survey shows that the proportion of middle-aged men who think that sex brings physical and mental satisfaction exceeds that of men of any age group. When people reach middle age, under the premise of decreasing frequency of sex, they should pay more attention to the quality of sex. Spouses need to realize that every sex is precious to both parties and should be a time for both parties to actively participate and fully enjoy. Therefore, couples with a strong relationship always emphasize less frequency and more quality. Middle-aged people will remember this or that sex vividly and have endless aftertastes. When sex is no longer a daily routine, every time will become extremely important to both husband and wife.

Understanding sex will make our marriage more stable. Middle-aged couples should remember that when you reach middle age, do not give up enjoying your sexual pleasure just because of physical aging. Good sex will add icing on the cake to your marriage.